NYTMag: Sociological look at ambient awareness (following FB+Twitter updates)

[davidfcooper]

Brave New World of Digital Intimacy

Social scientists have a name for this sort of incessant online contact. They call it “ambient awareness.” It is, they say, very much like being physically near someone and picking up on his mood through the little things he does — body language, sighs, stray comments — out of the corner of your eye...psychological studies have confirmed that human groupings naturally tail off at around 150 people: the “Dunbar number,” as it is known. Are people who use Facebook and Twitter increasing their Dunbar number, because they can so easily keep track of so many more people?

Many maintained that their circle of true intimates, their very close friends and family, had not become bigger. Constant online contact had made those ties immeasurably richer, but it hadn’t actually increased the number of them; deep relationships are still predicated on face time, and there are only so many hours in the day for that.

If you’re reading daily updates from hundreds of people about whom they’re dating and whether they’re happy, it might, some critics worry, spread your emotional energy too thin, leaving less for true intimate relationships...The information we subscribe to on a feed is not the same as in a deep social relationship...They can observe you, but it’s not the same as knowing you. These technologies allow you to be much more broadly friendly, but you just spread yourself much more thinly over many more people.

This is the ultimate effect of the new awareness: It brings back the dynamics of small-town life, where everybody knows your business.

The act of stopping several times a day to observe what you’re feeling or thinking can become, after weeks and weeks, a sort of philosophical act. It’s like the Greek dictum to “know thyself,” or the therapeutic concept of mindfulness...Having an audience can make the self-reflection even more acute, since, as my interviewees noted, they’re trying to describe their activities in a way that is not only accurate but also interesting to others: the status update as a literary form.

Laura Fitton, the social-media consultant, argues that her constant status updating has made her “a happier person, a calmer person” because the process of, say, describing a horrid morning at work forces her to look at it objectively. “It drags you out of your own head,” she added. In an age of awareness, perhaps the person you see most clearly is yourself.

Comments

[davidfcooper.livejournal.com]

It did update (about Peter not having to go to the hospital; whatever it is I hope he feels better soon).

[butterflymama3.livejournal.com]

Cool. He smashed his nose AGAIN!

[davidfcooper.livejournal.com]

Have you ever taken him to the children's zoo in the Prospect Park Zoo (http://nyzoosandaquarium.com/ppz)? They have a groundhog exhibit where kids can pretend they're groundhogs and pop up out of holes, and Peter is the perfect age for that.

[(Anonymous)]

No, we haven't taken them there yet. So many places to go and not enough time to go to them all. I want to take them to the Liberty Science Center to. They have an outdoor exhibit all about animals and how they move around.